I was enlightened. He wasn't even trying to "teach me a lesson", per say. He was simply stating what he thought, while in the mean time totally transforming my perspective.
I'm not building a wall around my heart, I'm knocking it down! Every single time that something less than ideal occurs, I learn a little bit more about how to love. I learn a little bit more about what love really is. Every experience brings me closer to truly loving- line upon line.
So everyone...get out there and tear down those heart walls!